Where I’m “At” Today (and Happy Mother’s Day!!)

Photo by Marisha

by Marisha

I used to think that expectations were poison for the soul.

I used to blame my adoption for a lot of my actions.

I used to prefer to be down about it.

I’ve had a lot of disappointments and never thought I deserved better because of my abandonment issues.

Looking back on those times, I now realize how important it is to have patience.

Patience for myself and patience for understanding.

I’m 25 now–a woman–and everything has started to fall into place because I have allowed myself the time to understand my adoption and use it in a positive way. I know things will never be perfect, but my life is the best gift I could be given.

My mindset has changed and my outlook is now settling under a positive light.

Today I choose happiness . . .

All these downfalls have led me here in this moment: I am proud to be adopted. Proud to be different. And proud to share my stories and insecurities with you all.

Also, Happy Mother’s Day to all the women who gave people like me beautiful lives! My mum is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Who could hate adoption when I have a mother like her?! 🙂 I love you, Mum!


  1. Beautiful!

  2. jeannieunbottled says:

    Wonderful post! All the best to you!

  3. Marisha – what a lovely post! Life is complicated. Adoption is complicated. The road to adulthood is complicated and amazing and really makes you dig deep. All anyone can do is the best they can each day…hope you two have a great weekend.

    • Marisha says:

      That is so true…it never seems to be easy does it? But yes it is beautiful! Thank you so much. All the best to you 🙂

  4. Wonderful & beautiful words. Thank you!

  5. Awfully glad you choose to share your stories with us. Thank you.

  6. I like the phrase “I choose happiness.” The other day my son wrote on facebook “I choose joy.” Both remind me of this: James 1:2 -4, NLT Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.

    Romans 15:13, ESV May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.


    • Marisha says:

      I love that your son wrote that. It is definitely a hard road but if people like your son continue to pass that positivity, we will find peace! God bless you, take care thank you for sharing your little story!!! X

  7. This is sincerely sweet! => you are blessed with a beautiful relationship that some children can ever ask for =>

  8. A wonderful positive post. Thanks so much for sharing it with the Weekly Adoption Shout Out x

  9. So grown up and positive and although it’s not always easy it’s good to find the upside of things. Thanks for sharing with the Weekly Adoption Shout Out. x

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