Creating a Strong Family Story


  1. Where did the post go – or am I just loosing it? All I see is the title…

    • It’s the weirdest thing–it seems to come and go. I can see it now. It’s the first time I’ve ever posted a Facebook post. Have you ever done that before? I’ve been wanting to try it out and this seemed like a good time. Can you see it now? haha, this is so strange.

  2. Me too. Drawing a blank.

    • It’s coming and going as if WordPress is a place on Star Trek and the post is beaming to it and then not really. Do you remember those episodes?

      • Other bloggers are missing things like Recent Comments so I am sure it is a Word Press issue…

        I still can’t see it – good way to get people to comment though…and everyone will realize it isn’t you just playing a joke on us…and I watched Star Trek (the original series) but kind of fuzzy on the beaming other than they kind of faded in and out materializing…is that what you mean?

        • Yes, that’s what I meant–a weak analogy for sure. Great idea for April fool’s day, though, to create a post that doesn’t exist and people can “fool” around trying to find it. Lucky for others, I’m not a practical joker.

  3. Yeah, WP has been dropping the ball lately. My least favourite improvement is viewing the reader on my mobile device. My thumb seems to want to like everything before I’ve had a chance to read anything.

    • And your comment just looked strange, Polly. Your gravatar was hovering over your words. Oh man, why are they doing this?! I had that happen to me on my iPad with using the reader. Very annoying. Then even if you didn’t want to read it you have to go read it to see what you liked haha!

  4. Still coming up blank, dammit.

    • What I’m hearing from others is that there is a delay, as there is for me. As if it takes a more more seconds for the info to come from Facebook. I can’t understand why it doesn’t show up for you. That is just mind-boggling. Of course, WordPress has no way to contact them for troubleshooting any more . . . .

      • I enjoyed this article-I think this is good info for the glass is empty/full people…if we start to look at things a little more (pardon the pun) fluid we will see our families more how they really are, with the ups and downs, the joys, the sorrows.

        • I agree. I looked through some old newspapers and found things that amazed me about previous generations. These things affected my grandparents, parents, then me, so of course they are part of my kids’ and brother’s lives, too, although they are adopted. The aspirations and hardships have had their effects and it’s good to know where we are in the fabric of the family. If you think of the Rubik’s cube notion you came up with, it’s having knowledge of all those different pieces that make up the cube, not just what we see on one or two sides.

    • Are you on Facebook? The article is on our Facebook page and here is the link to the article itself:

      • Thanks, Luanne. I read the article and it is intriguing as I wonder does it apply to adopted children who know the narrative of their adoptive families but not their birthfamilies.

  5. Readers judge a story to be of high literary value when they can recognize an interesting life, and are nourished by the journey, bringing along many of their own quests and associations of their own.

    • I think just knowing that the person is part of their family, whether it be adoptive or birth connections, is a start on making it interesting. Having a family story doesn’t mean it has to be of “high literary value,” though. Just that it is connective tissue for the family. You don’t agree with that?

  6. Luanne – good article thanks for linking to it. Dad was the story teller and that intrigued me – I have gone back in his family line further than he did (he had stories from the mid 1800’s on and people back to the beginning of the 1800’s) and I have found out and added – what they did for a living, where they moved, what education they had, their religion, their losses, medical issues, how they lived in that era – right back to the first ancestor to come to this country in the 1600’s – a Puritan – cousins asked me (biological family members) how I knew all this – dad and additional research thanks to the internet. The flip side is that it increased my yearnings to know my ancestral history so I did my history the same way…but it lacks so many of the stories relayed.

    At home we had dedicated family times each week (unless dad was called out) so I think that allowed for the story telling – plus we had grandma’s, aunts and uncles around a lot.

    • Gee, I had a loooong reply written here and got called away from the computer, and now it’s gone. It was a lot about how I respect your opinions about adoption matters, so it was fascinating to hear your response to this article.
      On a related note, I am the family genealogist for a few different reasons, but I don’t do much of it around my kids and while they were growing up, put it aside and only took it back up now that they are adults out on their own. I have always related family stories to them, much in the way the article talks, but we have created our own family stories, which have been the strongest. That said, because of the genealogy research I’ve done, I have actually been astounded how many adoptees are involved in genealogy where they are the one doing the research for the (adoptive) family. I can come up with some psychological reasons why that might be so, but it did take me by surprise.
      I think my kids love hearing family stories from their grandparents, and my dad even wrote his own story for Marisha. And when they were little I wrote up their own stories for them, based on all the information I was able to put together–so that it was a story-narrative and not a collection of bare and paltry facts.

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